The quote " Change is the only constant " appears to be one of the commonest one floating around.
But when it comes to experiential level , we live very differently.
With every year comes a new goal , a new planning , a new ideology which keeps us busy.Some of them stay for a longer time and some leave us too soon.Irrespective of their duration ,they all succeed in creating a sense of permanency in our mind. The idea that each of our present goal /ideology / thought is here to stay for eternity, makes sure we never come out of this loop.
Taking example from my own life. When I was 15-16 , I dreamt of becoming scientist and held science with utmost respect .Then during the college life I changed into a easy going boy who only cared to live , travel new places and have full fun. This was the stage when studies took the back seat (many of my school friends still doubt it and of course my parents ) and my philosophy about life started changing yet again.From science to social service was my new mantra along with lots of travel and fun all the time constituted my novel attitude.Then by the final years social service took the back seat(science was perhaps out of the car) and I started fantasizing about Computer science , high on-campus placement offers( remember how my dreams are changing and exactly how they follow the circumstances around). I was now feeling like I am made for the coding (blend of maths and easy money). But unable to meet the immediate dreams , my philosophy again started taking turns. Presently I am into changing myself from the core etc (spirituality and meditations ).
But what has started intriguing me now is the fact how every time I failed to realize , all the changes were temporary and purely circumstantial. I never really did anything out of choice.All I had was 2-3 choices out of billions of other choices .And even in that 2-3 choices it was purely out of circumstances , I ended up choosing that. Even the greater irony was in assuming that the ""choice"" was the result of my freedom to live. Adding to this cake of ignorance was the assumption my current state was permanent .And I could end up fighting(of course avoiding a physical argument ) to prove my point/philosophy.
Sadly this happens with almost everyone whom we meet in our everyday life .But the saddest part is , even when we are on our deathbed we fail to realize this (simple) nature's law that we are in nature's lap (not the other way around)and we die with this crown of ignorance.
The truth that " all of us are undergoing continuous change and yet not able to realize/experience this " remains hidden from most of us.
Why dont we notice this simple phenomenon . Why dont we see ourselves contradicting our very own thoughts which had kept us busy a year ago. If someone points out for us we disguise it into self improvement etc . But again the changes come.We hardly notice.
Actually we keep happening by accident . Any thought or idea or philosophy comes and hijacks us and makes us believe that this ""idea /thought" is the ultimate . During this period when we are romanticizing with a particular idea , that idea becomes the significant part of our life/soul. We are so much attached to it that we start seeing everything using the filter of that idea and when the doomsday comes for our "idea/dream" we get horrified and scared.We start feeling the vacuum created by the absence of it. Yet soon our old idea smoothly gets transitioned to new one and rarely giving us a time to stop and ponder upon it.
My point basically is , what if we undergo all this change exactly the same way as we do but with a eye to keep a watch on it. We keep changing ourselves even our behavior and personality but consciously.
This has the power to liberate us from the suffering.Before delving into this lets explore the cause of suffering.
Suffering occurs when our old idea gets into the phase of transition .And this transition hurts because it creates a feeling of being left alone .It makes us feel as if something very dear to us is leaving us. This is very ironical as cause of suffering can be as simple as this but the consequences can be very explosive (likes of suicide, depression etc).
What I am trying to say is (not I but all sages since ages , I am just chanting their words) once we become conscious of how these changes occur within us , how we gradually switch from one idea to other we begin to realize the futility of the seriousness of these ideas in our life . The reason being they all our happening by accidents which means our ideas are 100% conditioned to surroundings.( a 18 year child in India can be mad for clearing engineering entrance , a man in ISIS can be mad for converting the whole world into islam , a woman in USA might be fighting feminism etc). Again I am not saying we should end all of it . All these things in the material world will continue to happen but if we are conscious that our dreams and passions our just the repercussions of the society nearby or just any external influence , we will not take this bondage with our "idea" seriously .Consequently our happiness will never be the function of these ideas( whether they fail or succeed ).